The purpose of this document is to continue to illustrate
to the Faithful the depth and breadth of the snares satan
has set up for humanity.
Our prayer is that the Faithful become more vigilant and less
paranoid, more prayerful and less dependent on humans, thus, more
dependent on God. When the potential victim understands better
how the aggressor functions, defense
easier and less traumatic.
Paraphrasing what we wrote on November 13, 2006,
in our Points to Ponder (1)
The ultimate Joy is
doing the Will of God (2) ,
that is, "taking the horse to water", so to speak. Whether
"the horse" drinks or not should not affect us as long we did all that
possible to encourage "the horse" to drink the water. If we allow "the
horse" chosen option to
affect us, then we are sliding into co-dependency; that is, our joy
on another being and not
solely in doing the Will of God.
The only co-dependency that is healthy -
ideal - should be our
relationship with God.
Now, we will fully explain how satan uses
co-dependency to enslave both
engaged in such dysfunctional
- even beyond the grave.
Thousands of liters of ink have flowed as men have made
co-dependency a favorite subject for the Self-Help set. It sells - it
really sells.... books and tranquilizers!
The question is: Do the
innocent Faithful really
understand the spiritual dimension of co-dependency?
Unless that spiritual dimension is fully understood, satan will
continue to have a field day using one of his most favorite tools to
ensnare, enslave and make humans quite miserable.
In a nutshell: Co-dependency is a symbiotic relationship
wherein one party subconsciously justifies its existence - its worth -
making another party, for all practical purposes, subconsciously
totally dependent on them.
While that void within the self loathing
longs "to feel needed" is being filled, the
target becomes an almost neutralized
individual, every day becoming more and more dependent on the "master"
- the one who supplies all its false emotional and real physical
Naturally, as the "slave" becomes more and more dependent on the
"master", he/she becomes less and less dependent in God for the
"Master", in essence, the "master" has taken the place of God.
Sounds familiar, doesn't it? Who is the one who is always trying to
take the place of God? satan! Now you should be able to
understand what kind of spirit is driving the "master" (4) , thus the
destructiveness of such relationship.
Before going any further understand that: It is a human trait to desire
be wanted and
appreciated - a trait inherited from God, Who created us in His Image.
It is also a human trait to express our gratitude to those who may
assist us from time to time; however, when such traits are commandeered
by satan and twisted to suit his purpose, the suffering can be immense.
It is amazing to see a
"real man" - that is - a man who fulfills his created for purpose of:
father, husband, provider and protector turned into an emotional and
eunuch at the hands of a "master" spouse.
It is amazing
to see a whole culture, a culture wherein it
appears that men have the upper hand, when, in reality, they have
become no more
than walking spermatozoan farms.
It is amazing
to see brilliant women reduced to bumbling
idiots when, somehow, they were convinced that the Sun, not the Earth
the Sun, orbits around her male "master".
It is amazing to see
the wife and children of an alcoholic be totally
"enslaved" to the "master" who has made them believe that it is their
fault that he turned to alcohol.
How can that possibly happen? Quite simply!
satan wounds a soul - usually in its youth. Said soul becomes
very insecure and self loathing and starts developing an uncanny
determine what pleases his/her tormentor in an effort to appease
him/her. From this effort, this individual - the future "master" -
develops a brilliant
manipulation technique that is practiced on all others around him/her;
a technique that is practically unnoticed because it is enveloped in a
Little by little, that budding "master" engulfs those around
him/her so that by manipulating them, they become co-dependent so that
the "master" feels
somewhat secure - a security that was stripped away when his/her soul
wounded in its youth. Of course, satan is now at the driver's seat of
the budding "master" because in this manner he can harm, or at least
try to harm, all those who come in contact with the "master" who by
now has become, using medieval imagery, a spiritual vampire.
It is a Law of the spiritual domain that the more dependent we become
of anything in the physical world - whether another individual or
money - the less dependent we become of God. The less dependent we
become of God, the further away we drift from Him and the more we will
suffer in Time if said soul is destined for Heaven. (5)
Once the victim, the "slave", is under total control of the
is kept there through guilt no matter how hard he/she may fight. What
is truly brutal about this is that such control can be maintained even
Being that satan is the puppeteer in this very sad and sinister "show",
"master" may even commit suicide in "desperation"; an action which will
further "enslave" the victim, now fuly submerged in guilt, a guilt
fueld by the memory of the deceased "master".
You may ask: What is the purpose of
further enslaving the soul which was left in the world; after all, the
"master" is already gone and cannot benefit
from such enslavement?
The answer is also quite simple: In the ultimate analysis, both the
"master" and the "slave" are victims; victims of the puppeteer who is
satan. He just drove someone
despair and to suicide and now he will continue to make the life of the
one left miserable through overwhelming guilt.
How to get out
The moment one detects that such interaction is developing, stop it!
Such technique has been the favorite one of satan to try to derail and
control miguel de Portugal.
Through the Grace of God, and the faith that
only He can grant, satan's best laid plans can be blocked.
Many years ago, at two different times, miguel refused the continued
assistance of the only
benefactor of that particular
- with nothing to fall back on except God
to use the assistance to manipulate the work God had called m de P to
In less extreme conditions, other benefactors have been turned away or
after their intentions (not known to them) became evident to m de P.
How to detect them
The "master" on the prowl can easily be detected just as one
would detect an invisible but concrete man - by his footprints!
The "master" is totally blind to his/her dysfunction and the "slave"
feels comfortable being totally dependent on said "master", even
though, once in a while, he/she feels entrapped, yet psychologically
unable to break the dysfunctional bond.
The method (the "footprint" of the "master's" behavior) is
always the same and the relationship can be
identified by observing the
reaction of the "master" if he/she thinks that he/she is about to lose
control of the "slave". One must remember - that the "slave", in
dysfunctional mind of the "master", is the only reason for living; the
only (psychotic) balm that will make the "master" feel that he/she is
The moment the "master" senses that the "slave" is becoming independent
as a result of, for example, establishing a sound and truly liberating
relationship with God, the "master" turns against the one whom he/she
deems responsible for the possible liberation of the "slave". The
method used is to start turning the "slave" against the individual who
is deemed responsible for such liberation - that is indeed the most
effective and, of course, most destructive.
We have lived it at very close range - in our ministerial life as well
the family life. It is so sad to see these individuals, "masters" and
"slaves" alike, being manipulated by satan in such a predictable
manner. One who is not of God and could see what we see, could "play
them like a Symphonic
Orchestra" and "milk them for all they are worth" for they could see
one of their "buttons" and exactly how they will respond as each one is
Now, imagine, satan, with an even clearer view of his victim "buttons",
and being the No. 1 enemy of God, can literally destroy lives,
families, marriages and careers; thanks be to God, he cannot
destroy a soul destined for Heaven.
The only answer to this most
widespread problem is, as it always is, first, prayer; and second, not
to become part of such dysfunctional tango - for, as the saying
goes: "It takes two to tango."
this is such a controversial issue (and since ignorance or
misunderstanding of this matter is so widespread and could have such
destructive effects), if something that we have explained is not clear
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